What to do when your twin flame never initiates contact with you

When you find your twin flame, it’s an exhilarating experience! Not everyone is so lucky as to find another person much like themselves.

But what happens when, one day, your twin flame stops talking to you… and they just never initiate any contact?

Like every part of a twin flame connection, the pain that comes from this disconnect is intense.

So if you want to know what to do when this happens, read on! Because in this article, we’ll talk about 7 things you can do when your twin flame never initiates contact.

1) Ask how they’re feeling

Communication is key. This applies to so many relationships, but more so in a twin flame connection.

When you find your twin flame, of course there will be an easy, natural, and automatic sync of your souls. Because of this, it’s easy to assume that you don’t need to communicate that much.

But if you want to really maximize what you have, you need to learn how to express yourself. Or ask the right questions so your partner can express themselves.

This is one main reason why your twin flame doesn’t initiate contact– they don’t know how to say what they’re actually feeling.

It’s possible that you’re not talking to each other as much as you should. You’ve grown so comfortable about the unspoken understanding between the two of you that a lot of things remain unsaid.

So before you spiral due to the lack of contact from your twin flame, check on them first. Ask them how they’re doing, how they’re feeling, and what you can do to help.

2) Orient yourself about the twin flame push-pull dynamics

Some people find their twin flames and just stop there. They don’t dig into the intricacies, the do’s and don’ts, or the best practices of having this rare love connection.

If you aren’t aware yet, a very natural aspect of a twin flame setup is the push-pull dynamics.

It’s a phenomenon that happens between two people whose souls are mirror images of each other.

The push and pull happen because each person still wants to feel their own individuality.

This is actually a very healthy concept.

But when you’re unaware of it, it can be quite confusing. Some may even qualify it as toxic, or think that they and their twin flame aren’t really compatible.

What’s really happening, though, is that when one of you pulls away, the other tries to push in order to fill the emotional gap.

And this is understandable. Because that gap can feel painful when you’re not used to it.

This happens throughout the twin flame connection. And this is probably the reason why your partner hasn’t been initiating contact.

Why, you ask? Because when you see yourself in another person, it’s so easy to become codependent.

We don’t want that to happen.

The push-pull dynamics is a healthy way for twin flames to set boundaries while still enjoying the sweet sensation of a rare connection.

3) Offer support by letting them be with themselves

When we find our twin flame, we want to spend all of our time with them.

I mean, it’s only reasonable, right? When you meet someone who just gets you on a spiritual level, isn’t it best to spend as much time with them as possible?

But here’s the thing: Your twin flame should still be his/her own person.

And as someone who should understand your partner on this level, shouldn’t you be more sensitive about their needs… even if it means they need more alone time than you?

Also, maybe in your connection, you’re the one who takes on the role of being the initiator.

It’s not that your partner doesn’t want to talk or spend time with you. Maybe they just feel like you’re better at initiating things than they are.

4) Try to see if they’re mirroring what you’re doing first

Remember: A little self-reflection can come a long way.

Twin flames have a very unique kind of soul connection. They mirror most aspects of each other in a lot of ways.

This mirroring can either be parallel to each other. It can also mean you’re complementing each other, kind of like yin-yang.

The point is: You reflect each other’s behaviors and personality so well that sometimes, you can overlook it.

Ask yourself: Are you initiating contact with your twin flame, too?

I know it’s an unspoken rule that you get each other. But sometimes, a little give-and-take won’t hurt.

Maybe you’re mirroring each other’s assumption that initiating contact isn’t as needed as you think. And when that happens, then neither of you will feel fulfilled.

Because then you’ll just keep waiting for the other person to get it. It’s like two magnets of the same polarity trying to connect.

5) Relearn how to be intimate

Have you ever asked yourself why love is so hard? It’s even harder when you’re in a twin flame relationship.

Why can’t it be how you imagined growing up? Or at least make some sense…

When you’re dealing with a twin flame who never initiates, it’s easy to become frustrated and even feel helpless. You may even be tempted to throw in the towel and give up on love. 

I want to suggest doing something different. 

It’s something I learned from the world-renowned shaman Rudá Iandê. He taught me that the way to find love and intimacy is not what we have been culturally conditioned to believe. 

In fact, many of us self-sabotage and trick ourselves for years, getting in the way of meeting a partner who can truly fulfill us. 

As Rudá explains in this mind-blowing free video, many of us chase love in a toxic way that ends up stabbing us in the back. 

We get stuck in awful relationships or empty encounters, never really finding what we’re looking for and continuing to feel horrible about our lover not initiating contact with us.

We fall in love with an ideal version of someone instead of the real person. 

We try to “fix” our partners and end up destroying relationships. 

We try to find someone who “completes” us, only to fall apart with them next to us and feel twice as bad. 

Rudá’s teachings showed me a whole new perspective. 

While watching, I felt like someone understood my struggles to find and nurture love for the first time – and finally offered an actual, practical solution that would encourage my twin flame to initiate more. Or at least for me to understand where they’re coming from. 

If you’re done with unsatisfying dating, empty hookups, frustrating relationships, and having your hopes dashed over and over, then this is a message you need to hear. 

I guarantee you will not be disappointed. 

Click here to watch the free video.

6) If they’re hurting, lend a shoulder, an ear, or a hand

Even between twin flames, it can be hard to be completely vulnerable.

You would think things would be easier. But really, it’s a lot more complicated.

There are people who are just not that comfortable with being so open about themselves. And maybe that’s the reason why your twin flame doesn’t initiate contact.

Because they feel that, with your intense connection, opening up will be equally as intense. And that level of vulnerability can be overwhelming.

So when you find your twin flame having a hard time initiating contact with you– through touch, conversation, or just hanging out– try telling them, “I’m here.”

Sometimes that’s all anyone needs to let their guard down, even just a little bit.

Be patient with your twin flame about this. Surely, they’re still trying to gauge how much they can confide.

But when they do, make sure that you’re ready to lend a shoulder to cry on, an ear to listen, or a hand to help in any way necessary.

7) Get ready for the twin flame chase

So you have a twin flame who rarely initiates. You get it. Not everyone is comfortable with doing this.

But recently, you’ve noticed that they’re not initiating at all.

In fact, they’ve actually grown more aloof and distant.

So you ask yourself, “What gives?”

If this is what’s happening to you, then ready yourself. Because it’s possible that the two of you are entering a very painful, yet pivotal point in your twin flame relationship.

You’re about to embark on The Chase.

And it’s possible that your twin flame has taken on the role of being the runner in your relationship.

If this is the case, then ready your heart. Because this marks the start of lesser contact between you two. It’s even possible that they wouldn’t want to see you at all!

But don’t worry, because this is not the end of your connection.

It’s merely a necessary phase, wherein they do everything they can to not get drowned in the relationship you have.

They’ll get scared, and they’ll choose to run away. That will no doubt be hard to resist. Especially when all you want is to be with them.

But take heart and steel yourself. Because eventually, they will come back. I’m 100% sure.

For now, you just have to brave the winter of your souls.

Keeping your twin flame engaged

I know these points sound like a lot.

But really, all these are nothing compared to the satisfaction you will have eventually, when your souls have finally become one.

For now, try your best to keep your twin flame engaged.

Continue initiating even when they don’t. Express how you feel about them not reaching out to you. See if there is something you can do to help them feel more comfortable.

Whatever you talk about, things will fall into place, I promise.

They always do when you have a connection designed by your souls themselves.